Our Story


Leaving for RTW 1.0

Since pretty much as long as Dave and I have known each other, we’ve been talking about traveling the world together. We met five years ago in Chicago, where he had been living his whole life (aside from a summer in DC and a semester abroad in Australia). At the time we met, not only was he ready to move on from his job as an attorney, he was also ready to move on from Chicago. He was ready for a change of scenery. He was ready for some sort of adventure.

Before Dave met me, he’d been toying with the idea of taking some time off from work to travel. He was ready for a change and after seven years of working, he had enough money to hold him over for quite a while. Dave didn’t have any concrete plans for his “next-step,” all he knew is that he was ready to take one.

Dave and I were introduced by a client of mine, and his best friend from college. We hit it off immediately. In fact, my mom says that after just our first date I called her and told her I knew I was going to sound crazy for saying it, but I thought he was the one. Well, yes, that does sound crazy, but when you know, you know. And I guess I did.

After just a few weeks of dating, Dave told me that he had been thinking of quitting his job to travel. He said that he not only really liked how things were going between us, he also thought we had a future together. At the time that we met though, my brother and I had just started a company together and I wasn’t ready to do something like quit my job and travel. Dave understood but expressed that even if it wasn’t traveling the world (which he still wanted to do eventually), he still needed to make some sort of change.

So, we moved to New York.

Of course, it wasn’t quite as simple as easy as that, but 6 months to the day after Dave and I met, we were living together on the Upper East Side of Manhattan.

Before we ever knew we’d be moving to NY, we had booked a trip out of Chicago to Belize over Christmas and New Years. So, as soon as we were settled in NY, we had to go back to Chicago for our trip.

As I mentioned, Dave and I had always talked about taking a trip around the world, and it was on our layover in Dallas on our way to Belize that we actually put a plan in action. Coincidentally, one of Dave’s friends had bought us a scratch-off map as a going away present and we used that to plan our trip of a lifetime. 12 months starting with Mount Everest Base Camp and ending with Machu Piccu.

Our itinerary was awesome, but there were two slight problems. 1. We estimated that our trip would cost around $60k. We planned to offset that by either having a very small wedding and using the extra money we would have spent traveling, or having a huge blowout wedding and registering for airline miles and money. Either way though $60k over 12 months is a lot of money. 2. We’d both leave our jobs and then come back to the states a year later with no plan. After spending $60k, we didn’t know if we could afford to come back and spend even more money while we were figuring out our next move.

Anyway, our RTW plan was awesome, but maybe not the most realistic. Either way, we were still planning on going through with it in some way shape or form.

After about 8 months of living in NY we were still thinking about our RTW trip and toying with different dates and timing. One day we were ready to walk away and the next we thought that maybe we’d stay a little longer. In the fall (2012), I had a business trip in Austin so Dave met me there and we went to San Antonio and Dallas for the weekend. On our 5 hour drive between the two, Dave called his best friend and former roommate, Rob, who was planning to leave for a 5 month RTW trip of his own. He was telling us his plans when he mentioned that he would be visiting two friends in Thailand that went there for vacation and ended up staying for a year to teach English.

As soon as he said it, a light bulb went off in our heads. Why didn’t we think of it before? We had been planning to spend a lot of time in Southeast Asia on our trip anyway, so why not move to Thailand for a year and teach English to offset some of the costs of our travels? We could still do a few months of traveling while we were making our way down to Thailand, but then instead of coming back a year later with no plan and no job, we would stay abroad for as long as we wanted, which would give us plenty of time not only to travel, but also to come up with a plan for when we return.

It really was a perfect plan for us. Dave had been a little nervous about having to live out of a suitcase for so long and I had been nervous about missing some awesome places that we learned about along the way because our schedule would already be set. This way, we’d have a home base (we decided Bangkok would be the best because it’s the easiest to travel from and a huge city, which we both love) and we’d have the flexibility and time to make up our plan as we go. If we heard about an awesome place from people we met while traveling, we’d have time to plan a weekend trip there.

It all came together very quickly, but all of the sudden we had a new plan. Dave was getting his bonus in April and then our NY lease would be up in June, so our adventure would start then. We had 8 months to plan the rest of our lives, and the timing couldn’t have been more perfect.

Now, fast forward about three years.

Dave and I figured out our travel plan (see RTW 1.0), got married, spent our “honeymoon” traveling for three months, moved to Thailand, got jobs at an International University in Bangkok, and have been working here for two and a half years (and loving every minute!). After our initial summer of travel en route to Bangkok, we spent the next three summers traveling for three months during our summer breaks, first throughout SE Asia (RTW 2.0), then throughout Northern Asia (RTW 3.0) and most recently through the U.S. this past summer to visit our family and friends (RTW 4.0). I guess you can say our “honeymoon” never ended.

These have been some of the best, most fun, happiest years of our lives (though admittedly, also some of the most challenging). Originally, we planned to just stay in Thailand for a year, but almost 3 years later, and we haven’t even had close to enough. So, now we’re taking it one day at a time (or doing that as best as two crazy planners can possibly do), teaching kids from all over how to speak English, exploring Thailand and Asia, and pretty much just having the time of our lives.

Follow The Stave Diaries to keep up to date on all of our adventures or for help and inspiration for planning your own RTW trip or move abroad. If you have even had a single thought about doing something similar to what we did, we say GO FOR IT! It was literally one of the best decisions of our lives.

Be sure to subscribe to our posts and follow The Stave Diaries to stay up-to-date on all of our adventures! You can also contact us HERE!

6 thoughts on “Our Story

  1. So glad I just stumbled across your blog while looking for Emei Shan hike info. Started clicking around and found we have been to many similar places. My fiance and I are both from Chicago, grew up in the suburbs on the north shore, and are almost done with a year off from our lives to travel. We are on RTW 1.0, which took us from South America to Asia, with our last stop being China, where we are now. Heading home in 6 weeks to get married and re enter life. Kind of the opposite of what you guys did. Anyway, awesome blog and great info to look through!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thanks, Lindsey! Let me know if you have any other questions about Emei Shan. Sounds like you had an awesome trip too. Are you ready to get back to “real like?” Good luck and safe travels!


  2. We did Emei Shan and opted for the hiking UP route. Why did we do that to ourselves?! Was a tough hike on day 1, day 2 wasn’t as bad. Best part was staying in the Elephant Pool area, at a restaurant/inn place behind the monastery. They loved us there, we were probably the only westerners they have seen in a long time. Got drunk and enjoyed our night before hitting day 2 of UP. I have to admit, we are pretty ready to get back home to Chicago. “Real life” may look a lot different than life looked before we left, but we miss home and our family and friends.


    • We saw so many people hiking up and were very happy with our decision to go down when we saw how much everyone was struggling. But kudos to you! We went by the Elephant Pool monastery. It looked great and so big! Totally hear you about missing family and friends though. There’s not that much we really miss about home other than the people.


  3. Yeah, we are like 4 months behind but still posting actively to catch up. It’s http://lovingcupple.com

    We have a few posts left to finish up South America, and then we went to Vietnam, Cambodia, Japan and now China. Actually in Tibet currently. I highly recommend trying to get here, we are in awe of the living culture and history.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s